Recently this thought returned and is stuck on loop. thank you very much for this article. I wasn’t sure if I touched her private part by mistake when trying to wake her up. You need to realise that you have no need to confess, the 98 to 99% of the population who do not have OCD would not feel any guilt or need to confess - that's cos OCD isn't magnifying everything for them. Many times I’ve seen people raise this type of OCD then vehemently stick to the belief that the situation has nothing to do with OCD. My thoughts are so real! I recently had a memory about a show I was at once. I have dealt with OCD my entire life that has been mostly obsessing about past events (either recent or long ago)that make me feel like I am unfaithful in my current, very healthy relationship. Consquently, sufferers with this theme commonly believe that they should be/must be punished for their transgression. You can tell yourself that a couple of times a day. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. For myself, rumination is part of my depression which accompanies my OCD. Since I was about 18 and I first learned about the concept of karma I have done my best to correct any mistakes or slights I have made in my life towards others. You can learn it on your own, though I think the best method is to go to a CBT therapist. I know all about shame, guilt and regret RE pmo. by Moderator ... but almost instantly I began to search for the next thing to feel guilty about. Basically, you get intrusive thoughts about what you did. I have had the worst 2 years obsessively worrying about a sexual game I played as a child (8 or 9) which totally disgusts me. We had a major fight over this that night because I said I had hooked up with another girl. Thus, it causes obsessive thoughts, and prompts various compulsions: incessant apologizing, repeated and meticulous questions, “checking” rituals, and – for some people – over-frequent, obsessive use of sacramental Confession. How can it be OCD? What is False Memory OCD? I continue to confess until I ‘feel okay’). Mine is religious or moral related I guess. I told her what happened, but made the details less intense due to complete fear. What’s more important is that you forgive yourself for past mistakes. by df1877 » Tue Apr 15, 2014 4:08 pm . I can’t tell if it’s just me obsessing or if I genuinely need to right these wrongs. Stand firm. Regardless of this, therapy would target the here and now, looking at the way you maintain the belief that you are dangerous or "fucked up". Blairwhit New Member. But that doesn’t translate into a lifetime of self punishment. Obsessions – these are intrusive, unwanted thoughts, images, urges, sensations that people experience as negative and uncomfortable. Yes it takes lots of practice to ignore the thoughts. Now confessing is a big compulsion with this theme. Why do I feel guilty, ashamed of myself. Although anxiety is certainly a prominent feature of the disorder, clinicians who only attend to anxious symptoms can easily overlook some of its other core features. As you’ve figured out, cinfessing inly brings temporary relief. But that is a trap. OCD-related confessions aim to reduce the feeling of guilt people feel, and also often elicit reassurance from other people – e.g. Thank You for this article. The punishment (don’t deserbe to hold the job) does not fit the crime. In short I would say I have gone to great lengths to make amends. This is what happened in 2012- I had a confrontation with one of my friend’s GF on Facebook. My suggestion is that you look at your behavior and figure out what compulsions you are doing. ! 05/14/2018 im 35, Im sure its clear to me now, I think. Yes, I highly recimmend CBT. ... Confession compulsion. Just words tho . Forgiveness is within reach. I have horrible sexual intrusive thoughts about a certain person. When I was just gone 15, I’d just gotten with a girl I’d been speaking and camming to for months, with full intent on going to see her. They fixate on the alleged crime and can’t shake it from their mind. Soon enough the thoughts come back and you do more compulsions to try and feel better. Guilt and confession? Example, Being at a pub with my boyfriend and after some drinks, being possibly flirty with a friend we made. Not at all like that." I guess I’m trying to figure out when it’s necessary to tell on myself for my wrongs. I can very much relate to nearly everything you wrote in it. However, if these confessions are repetitive and excessive, driven by a core fear or anxiety, elicit reassurance from other people, and interfere with functioning, then it’s important to consider OCD as the driver. This theme has one thing in common: the sufferer’s steadfast determination to punish themselves for the perceived transgression. Of course, we should be averse to all sin, especially grave sin. You can be cruising along without a care in the world and suddenly wham! 05/14/2018 im 35, Im sure its clear to me now, I think. Guilt is not considered a positive thing in itself in any Catholic teaching, rather contrition is considered constructive. Hi, it sounds to me as if you have a touch of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). The mistakes I obsess about are in a gray area, where some people would say they aren’t a big deal and I should move on and others would say it’s a serious mistake and I should do what I can to fix it. Sorry. The thought of what happened (obsession) causes distress. None of them need to be dealt with in any way. But, it’s depressing me greatly! Why did I do what I did? TELETHERAPY IS AVAILABLE TO ALL OUR CLIENTS IN A SECURE PLATFORM925.956.4636   |    intakes@eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com, Copyright © 2021 East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, book a consultation/training (for clinicians only), OCD-related confessions aim to reduce the feeling of guilt people feel, and also often elicit reassurance from other people, What do our clients think about exposure work? As it’s thought of more… The more intense the memory gets and the more “I remember” or add onto the event. If I hurt someone’s feelings – apologised where possible. Learn more. So the thout would becomes less . And only you. It’s nice to hear that others go through this too. But I just can’t get past the constant thinking and disgust! At the time we weren’t in a good place and argued constantly. 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